My kids’ mother and I are fighting over custody. She filed a custody complaint in Charlotte family court and I just received a notice that I’m required to go to mediation with her. I have strong evidence that I want to be able to use against her in court and I don’t want her knowing what I have before we go to a custody trial. Do I have to share everything I have on her in mediation and should I have a lawyer present with me?

My ex-girlfriend had a baby 3 months ago. I just received a notice from North Carolina Child Support Services that she is coming after me for child support. The paperwork also says she wants me to pay some of her hospital bills for having the baby. I’m currently unemployed and I am not even sure the child is mine. Can she get child support or medical expenses from me if I’m not working? I also need to know how I go about getting a paternity test. Will she have to pay for it since she’s the one asking for child support?